Here are some quick tips to get you started.

1. Start being more social with everyone. Start saying hi to strangers, and people you deal with everyday, guys and girls. This means, make conversation with the waiter, cashier, taxi driver, etc.. Get use to talking more to people.

2. Go to places you are use to. If you try going out to attract girls at a club, or location you have never been you will be even more nervous because you are not familiar with your surroundings. Go where you are comfortable.

3. Get into a super mood before going out. Do you love yourself? This might seem like a strange question but ask it. You can’t have the confidence you will need until you say, “YESS, I love myself, I don’t want to be anyone else but me” and really mean it.

4. Work on yourself. Read books, do things you love, make yourself a smarter, healthier better.

5. Eat well and exercise. Having a body that feels great will automatically make you more confident.

6. Practice, get out there and start talking to girls. If you want, get my audio program so you know exactly what to do that will work. Then start doing it. You will be amazed at the results.

7. Much more, but all for now my friend,

Ryan

I also love to dance, it’s always been a passion of mine and I KNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL. Because I loved to dance when most guys didn’t I could always get girls to dance with me, but it went nowhere. They would dance with me then be attracted to some other guy who sat in the corner all night and never moved a muscle.

I realized I was relying on my dancing to interact with girls and I had to stop. It was a crutch. Believe me, if you can dance, it’s a huge advantage over every guy who’s in the club. But you have to use it as another tool, and not your only asset.

You can’t fall into the category as the fun loving guy who loves to dance but girls look at as a friend or even a clown as sometimes happened in my case.

You need to work on the entire package of attraction. This includes what you say, how you say it, and your body language. Most importantly, it also includes what you think and how you feel which is the most important aspect of attraction and interestingly enough the one that men work on the least.

But here are some small tips that you could incorporate with your dancing that would give you some quick positive results:

1. Start dancing, then be the first one to stop and walk away. Show interest then take it away. You start dancing with a girl, you’re both having fun, just stop and say, “I’m going to go talk to some friends.” Then come back in a few minutes to talk or dance again. You should notice some great results with this. Be hard to get and always be going somewhere else.

Most guys dance with a girl for as long as they can. They think, “Yes, we are dancing, she likes me, I’m so in” and they keep thinking this until the girl gets bored and says, “I have to go to the bathroom.”

2. When you are dancing with a girl, try to increase the amount of touching while you also continue to take it away. Most guys who dance with girls try to get all over them as much as possible. You want to increase the touch then take it away…increase it then take it away again.

This is sending a very seductive message that the girl will love. She wont know whether you like her or not so she will try harder to make you like her, and she will probably start touching you more.

Baby steps, start slow, take it away, then bring back even more. I do this all the time and it works amazingly well.

All for now but let’s continue the conversation.

Ryan

I’m becoming more of a fan of direct approaching. For those who don’t know what direct approaching is, it’s when you approach a girl and instantly let her know that you are interested in her. For instance, walking up to a girl at a cafe, and saying, “Hey, you look interesting, I had to come say hello.”

The benefit of direct approaching is that it’s faster and right to the point. You’ll know very quickly whether the girl is interested or not. It’s honest and it saves time!

At first, this may seem like something that would never work. Every guy does this right? Wrong, it’s a common misperception that guys often directly approach girls. Usually they approach and say, “Hi, how are you, what’s your name” Or, “can I buy you a drink” or, “Hey, nice necklace, its pretty.”

These are all fake comments to try to talk to a girl and she will see right through them.

But being direct is different. You walk right up to the girl and state why you are talking to her, “Hi, I saw you from across the room, I like your smile, and I wanted to say hi.”

Now keep in mind, the direct approach only works if:

1. You are very confident. You have to own what you are saying. You expect her to want to talk to you. If you are nervous, or awkward it won’t work. She will sense that you mean what you say and you are in control and this is attractive.
2. You follow it up with a slight tease soon after. For instance, after you tell the girl you came to talk to her because you liked her style, you might remark soon after, in a playful manner, “Or I just remembered who your style reminded me of…. “Pause” she will expect you to say someone beautiful)…… My 94 year old grandma, she’s old, but I’ll tell you, she looks good.

Going direct is great but be very confident, expect her to be interested, and show zero nervousness.